Love is love!

People need to stop focusing on what love means and focus on the actual feeling. There are many, many, many controversies and problems now a-days with love. Three of the biggest one's are sexual preference, race, and age. Now, don't misunderstand me. I'm not saying that I have a problem with these things but lots of people do.

Age: I think age depends on the circumstance. If there's a 40 year old guy saying that he's in love with a 2nd grader, I call bullshit. To me, age shouldn't matter all that much, but really, it does. If you are older, like about 18, then it doesn't as much. You could date or marry someone a lot older than you, but people will always look down on you. The reason why I don't quite understand this is because we are all just people. Love is love; it's a feeling that you can't help but have sometimes. So if it's something you can't control, why do you have to look specifically for someone your age? One thing that I feel very strongly about is double standards. A girl could date someone older than them. Heck, I could find somebody 5 years older than me and most people wouldn't say a thing. A female freshman dating a male senior is NOTHING. How come a girl can't date a younger guy without getting laughed or scoffed at? A female senior dating a male freshman would be CRAZY. Even though I could easily date a guy 5 years older, if I tried dating a guy even ONE year younger people say things like "OMG you're older?" or "Duuude, why are you dating someone younger?" When I asked someone about this, they had a pretty logical explanation. "Girls mature faster, so if you want a mature guy then you have to look for someone older than you." That makes sense in a way right? I mean women supposedly DO mature faster, so if we mature two years faster, we should look for somebody two years older, right?? Wrong. Love know's no boundaries.

Race: Has anyone out there felt like someone wouldn't date them because they're a different race? No matter, white, black, mexican, asian, etc. you should not be discriminated against because of your race. I know TONS of people who say things like "I would never date a black person." Or "Eww, you're dating a mexican?" Love is not shallow, so if you're dating someone because of how they look, or don't look, don't expect it to work out.

Sexual Preference: Everyone has a different sexual preference, although some people don't have any. There are gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, etc. So many different labels!! Like I said, for me, love know's no boundaries. I don't look at what is in a person's pants or what they look like on the outside; I look at a person's personality. Even if you do, you may have different beliefs. That's fine, because everyone does. The thing that bothers me though, is that just because you have a different belief, you feel like you have to push that on other people; or you are very intolerant to other beliefs. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that ALL of you are like that. I have no clue about what people are reading my blog right now, but I think that the world needs to be a little more open-minded when it comes to love. Just because I believe something, or I'm doing something, does NOT mean that I want you to believe it or do it, I just want you to let me go my way, and you go your way. We are all people and we all deserve all the same rights. There are some heterosexuals that are under the assumption that they are in love, and homosexuals just have sex; but everyone just wants to be loved.

Quote: "You have your way, I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist." Friedrich Nietzsche"

Age is but a number!

Bet you didn't expect me to say that, did you? Now let me explain... This isn't really a blog post about how I think age doesn't matter in relationships. YES, I may get into that, but my main point is how people are treated because of their age. As I have said in almost every single one of my blogs... EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT. EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT. EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT. Sick of hearing it yet?

Everyone matures at a different age. Age is literally, just a number. It's the number of years that you've been alive and most people look at it as your experience or maturity level. Let me give you a few reasons why this is wrong.

1. Women mature faster then men, so if you had a male and a female at the same age, wouldn't the female be more mature? Well you might think that, and usually that's the case (;D Sorry guys.) but not necessarily. My three year old cousin is already more mature than me and he's male! (Also when you think about this one, you have to take into consideration gender problems.)
2. Not everybody gets out much. So you could be 15 and go out and do tons of stuff, experience life, and get wiser. You could also be 40 and sit around at home, like you have all your life, and know nothing of the real world.

Okay, okay, so granted, older people have lived longer.. but what does that mean really? I don't think it's fair that just because other kids my age are immature and stupid I'm treated like I'm immature and stupid. Just because I'm a teenager.. that's everyone's favorite excuse for anything I do. I'm having leg pains "Oh, it's just because you're a teenager." I get mad at my sister, "Oh, it's just because you're a teenager." I FRACKIN TAKE OUT THE TRASH OR SOMETHING, "Oh, it's just because you're a teenager." (This is not my personal outlook, it's for anyone who has felt this way at some point or another.) Haha, does that even make sense? :) Stereotypes... Now that's for a whole 'nother blog.

Has anyone else noticed that all my blogs are connected in some messed up, tangled way? I try to put them in different categories but I kind of trail off.. Just bare with me people. Please? Oh, and I decided to talk about the age in relationships in my next blog, so Adios! Until next time! :)

Don't think they don't notice.

The title... well it means EXACTLY what it says. When you body check someone who is overweight or you stare at someone's lazy eye... they NOTICE. One of my favorite songs made me really think about this.

"I'm the cripple on the corner
You've passed me on the street
And I wouldn't be out here beggin'
If I had enough to eat
And don't think I don't notice
That our eyes never meet."

Everyone want's to be treated the same. I've learned this through experience. No matter what it is about you, you're a person and you want to be treated that way, right? One of my biggest topics that I want to talk about today is mentally handicapped people. Using the word "retarded" is just like saying "that's so gay." When you call THEM retarded, as if it's a correct term, and then call you're friend retarded when you really mean stupid, it's like calling them stupid! When you say "That's so gay" and you mean it like stupid, you're calling homosexuals stupid. Just like if I thought something was stupid and instead of saying stupid, I say your name. All that they want, is for people to treat them the same. When you give them special treatment, or ignore them, pretend that they're not even there, they notice. At my school, J.C. Harmon, a lot of the students do this. Whenever I pass the Special Ed class in the hallway, I smile and wave, but most people just walk past and ignore them.

One time when I was in the breakfast line, there was a mentally handicapped kid in front of me. The teachers that were with him were helping the other students, and I dunno, they might have forgotten that he was behind them. He just kept pointing at the tray but didn't pick one up so I grabbed one for him and moved on because all I wanted was a juice. When I got out of the line I looked back and saw that he was standing by the milk.. just pointing at them, obviously wanting somebody to help grab one. EVERY single kid in the line just went around him and pretended like he wasn't there. So I went back and helped him. It really saddens me when people act like that. Like they're better just because his problems are a little more obvious than our problems, because we ALL have problems.

I have a friend, (will not name names :D) who is actually quite smart. He is a MAJOR Harry Potter fan, and to me that is AWESOME. Everyone is always making fun of him for that. A lot of people love Harry Potter, including me, but we're not as open about it. So other people take advantage of that and try to make his life hell. Now this friend, is one of the SWEETEST people I know. He is constantly saying hi and complimenting everybody. He has complimented my eyes on MANY occasions. So why does everyone else have to be so rude? Is it because he's different? It makes no sense to me.. because we're all different. (As I've said on MANY occasions.) I don't know about you guys, but I take pride in my differences. If we were all the same the world would be a very boring place.

Intolerance will not be tolerated.

For starters, what is tolerance? "The ability or willingness to tolerate something, in particular the existence of opinions or behavior that one does not necessarily agree with." In GSA (Gay straight alliance) we push this concept a lot. Our first objective is to create a safe place where EVERYONE can be themselves.  We don't judge and we give everyone a chance to speak about their week. Our second objective is to spread tolerance. When I say that we spread tolerance, I don't JUST mean for homosexuals. Everyone has a tolerance problem, and there are many different things that you can be intolerant about.

Everyone has pet peeves or things that they don't like about people and things that they do. You may not like something about someone but you still tolerate. If you hate it when people smack their gum but you don't judge them for it, and you don't yell at them or something, you're tolerating it! :) You may not like someone at all, but they're your best friends friend so you tolerate them.

All of this ties in closely with what you believe. There are things that everyone will NOT tolerate. For me, I will not tolerate closed-mindedness and homophobia. Of course there are other things, like most people, including me, will not allow anyone to harass their friends. Basically, you do not tolerate harassment. Everyone can state their opinion, of course! I'm all for listening to other people's side of things; if you continually say it though, or keep on bugging someone about it, it's harassment.

So basically, I'm just asking that everyone try their best to be open-minded about other peoples opinions and that you help spread tolerance, not just for GSA's sake, or homosexuals sake, but for everyones sake because NO one likes being discriminated against.

I've gotta be me.

I understand that everyone is different but I hate that people get hurt because of it. The thing that upsets me the most though, is when people get shunned or discriminated against because of race, sexual preference, appearance, disability, etc. Yesterday I had somebody make fun of one of my friends because of her teeth and another one of my friends because of her weight. What is the point of attacking others insecurities?! Because everyone has insecurities and everyone is different in EVERY way.

I understand that this is how the world works, but can't I be upset about it? It's only gotten worse, and it keeps going farther down hill as time goes on. No one respects anyone else and it's sad. People thrive to hurt others; it's a vicious cycle. Why can't everyone just accept that we are all who we ARE. You're not me, and you never will be. You are YOU. So take care of yourself and don't worry about what I'm doing.

Nothing you do will stop me from being myself. You have to push on and ignore the yells of others. People are going to laugh and people are going to make fun but you can't let them win. If you stop doing certain things just to make others happy then most likely YOU won't be happy and isn't that the most important thing? I suppose it all depends on what you think the point of life is. I think the point is to live life to the fullest and have fun. If all you care about is what other people think, then you aren't living life for yourself; you're living life for them. There is no way that anyone can change my mind or views.; in this sense, I've gotta be me.

To do or not to do.

There are so many choices in life; so many things that you could do. How do we make that decision? I, personally, like to weigh the pros and cons. Lately I've been thinking about my future and college. Do I really want a huge debt just so that I can be a pharmacist? Isn't there something more? I've always wanted to help people, isn't that why I wanted to go into the a health career? I don't know how I know that this is the right decision for me, but I feel compelled to join the marines. Maybe there is something else out there that would be better but at the moment I can't think of any. We all have those things that we feel like we must do and this is mine. I might not seem, or look like the type and I know that it will be intense. Actually, I'm looking forward to that. I think that people should expect the unexpected. I LIKE making people think in wonder, or go "Really? You don't look like the type." People should learn not to judge a book by it's cover. Haven't we been preaching this for years and years? Women have been fighting for rights a long time. We fought for the right to wear pants, to drive, even to wear our hair short. If we can do all the things a guy can do then why can't guys do all the things that we get to do? Who are we to judge a guy for wearing makeup? Or a girl for joining the armed forces? Think about that next time you laugh at someone for being different.